4 Things You Shouldn’t Take Into 2018.

It’s Dr. Kelly Wood, your Balanced Living Health and Wellness expert. My mission is to help women overcome their limitations and achieve total wellness and balanced living: mind,body and spirit. I do this through my blog, speaking and individualized group and VIP Balanced Living programs.

Happy New Year!!!

Depending on the year you had in 2017, you might be relieved it’s over. 2017 had its ups and downs and may have taught some difficult lessons but pat yourself on the back for surviving it all.

If you’re like me, you’re excited about 2018. The start of a New Year brings hope, a sense of a new beginning and a fresh start. Maybe you made resolutions of how you’ll change your life and achieve your dreams in the coming year, however, if you make the same choices and continue unhealthy, self-sabotaging habits, chances are nothing will change.

Why not leave the baggage that weighs you down behind in the old year so that you are truly ready and capable of living your best life in 2018?

What do you need to leave behind?

The list could be endless but let’s discuss 4 things that many of us need to ditch and not take into the New Year.

1. Unhealthy, unbalanced relationships

We sometimes find ourselves in one-sided relationships where we’re the only ones putting in consistent effort.  I highlight consistent because we can be easily fooled by people who drop breadcrumbs to keep us connected so we’re available when they need us. This not only occurs in romantic relationships but also platonic friendships and even in business partnerships.

If you’re the one who’s always calling and arranging the dates or begging the other person to take more interest in you or your life… let the sucker go!

2.  Being paralyzed by fear

We all deal with fear to some level.  The purpose of fear is to motivate us into action such as avoiding danger or being more prepared and focused on a task. Fear is emotional energy that can be used to propel us, but for some, fear can lead to paralysis. Fear of the future, fear of rejection and even fear of failure can prevent us from taking risks and trying new things.

Let’s face it, we will never totally get rid of fear but we don’t have to. Successful people are those who take action and go after their dreams in spite of being afraid.  So can you.

3. Negative self-talk

Sometimes our biggest critics are our own selves. We’re all too familiar with that inner voice which tells us we’re not good (replace with any other desirable quality) enough or that we don’t have what it takes to succeed.

However, what we say to ourselves is very important. It can determine if we achieve the goals we’ve set or if we remain stuck. So in 2018, let’s silence the inner critic and be kinder to ourselves.

4. Living in the past

We rob ourselves of enjoying the present moment or having a better future when we fixate on situations that have already happened. We can’t go back in time and change what occured, we can only move forward.

Being consumed with thoughts of who hurt you or what went wrong and rehearsing your pain will only prevent you for moving on. Leave the past in the past, your future can be better if  you give it a chance.

Make this year your best one yet by letting go of the negative behaviors and people who held you back in 2017.

To learn more about Balanced Living or our programs, please connect with me by visiting  https://www.facebook.com/DrKellyWoodMD/

Physician, Endocrinologist, Diabetes specialist, Health and Wellness expert, Blogger, Speaker! Kelly Wood, MD is board certified in Internal Medicine as well as Endocrinology, Diabetes and Metabolism. She has many years of experience working with patients to transform and improved their health. She is passionate about teaching others about the interconnections of mind, body, and spirit; and how they can achieve health in all three areas and lead a balanced life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Birthday Blues: Why Birthdays Are Hard

It’s Dr. Kelly Wood, your Balanced Living Health and Wellness expert. My mission is to help women who may struggle with their weight and experience one or more chronic illnesses overcome their limitations to achieve total wellness and balanced living: mind,body and spirit. I do this through my blog, speaking and individualized group and VIP Balanced Living programs.

My birthday was a few days ago. I love celebrating special occasions, so I’m usually intentional about making sure I have the absolute best time on my birthday. Last year, I spent the weekend exploring and enjoying New Orleans. This year, I traveled to my favorite country on the entire planet, Barbados, and spent the day with friends doing my favorite activities on the island- sailing on the ocean and snorkeling with turtles.

I had an amazingly happy day. However, my mood was down on the days leading up to my birthday. I was overly emotional and teary eyed. After I took a minute to sit and reflect on what was going on in and around me, I realized it was a combination of hormones, the end of Daylight Saving Time and the shorter days but more importantly, my impending birthday.

It turns out I’m not alone in feeling this way. It’s actually pretty common. Birthdays are supposed to be happy occasions right!? So, why do they make us sad?

Sometimes it’s as simple as being upset over getting older. We’re reminded of our mortality and this could be super depressing. Queue the new grey hairs, the joint pains, slower metabolism and then there’s the belly fat.

A birthday also signals the end of a year and this causes us to reflect on what we’ve accomplished since the last one. Maybe nothing has changed and this realization brings disappointment.

We’re also reminded of our life goals which have not been achieved. Many of us women expect to get married or have children by a certain age and when another year passes and it still hasn’t happened, it brings sadness.

Another reason why we get depressed on our birthday is if we weren’t appreciated like  expected. No one gave a gift or took us out to dinner. We didn’t get as many phone calls, texts or Facebook posts as we wanted so we don’t feel loved.

Regardless of the reason, you can overcome and prevent sadness associated with your birthday.

How can you fight Birthday Blues?

1. Practice gratitude

It’s easy to forget the good that has happened to you and what you’ve accomplished during the year since your last birthday.  To overcome this, focus on the positive!  Write a list of the year’s highlights.  Meditate on your list and give thanks. This will keep you from dwelling on what you don’t have or what you think you should have accomplished.

2. Throw your own party

No one else is responsible for your happiness. If you know there’s something that you want to do on your birthday, then go DO IT! Don’t wait around for someone else to do something special for you.  Invite some of your friends but if no one is available, don’t be afraid to celebrate alone. There’s nothing wrong with this.

3. It’s OK to be disappointed

Allow yourself to grieve over dreams which have been deferred. Sometimes life deals you a hand that you don’t want. This is the time to practice some self-care. Cry if you need to; then dry those tears and go on living the life you do have.

4. Take action

If you felt you didn’t achieve your goals this year, why not? Can you do something differently? Maybe you need a new strategy or some accountability.  Or maybe you just need to go easier on yourself. If you had no one to celebrate with, this might signal that investment is needed in your current relationships or that you need to go out and meet more people.

If you sometimes feel sad about your birthday,  know you’re not alone. I do too! The emotions will pass. Until then, do whatever you can to make yourself feel better.

And remember you’re freakin’ awesome. You made it through another year. That alone is a pretty good reason to celebrate!

To learn more about Balanced Living or our programs, please connect with me by visiting  https://www.facebook.com/DrKellyWoodMD/

Physician, Endocrinologist, Diabetes specialist, Health and Wellness expert, Blogger, Speaker! Kelly Wood, MD is board certified in Internal Medicine as well as Endocrinology, Diabetes and Metabolism. She has many years of experience working with patients to transform and improved their health. She is passionate about teaching others about the interconnections of mind, body, and spirit; and how they can achieve health in all three areas and lead a balanced life.

 

Failure Is Good For You

It’s Dr. Kelly Wood, your Balanced Living Health and Wellness expert. My mission is to help women who may struggle with their weight and experience one or more chronic illnesses overcome their limitations and achieve total wellness and balanced living: mind,body and spirit. I do this through my blog, speaking and individualized group and VIP Balanced Living programs.

“I can accept failure. Everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” -Michael Jordan.

The thought of failure incites fear in most people.  It can bring back memories of failing a test, a business which folded or maybe even a failed relationship. It was painful and perhaps you believed you weren’t good enough or you felt judged by others.

However, this fear of failure keeps you from taking risks, doing new things and living your life to the fullest.

Great leaders have experienced failures in their pasts, but never quit trying and never gave up. They reach the pinnacles of success by not accepting failure as an option and go on to achieve great things.

Take the story of Thomas Edison, who was one of the most prolific inventors in history (holding over 1000 U.S. patents). He tried thousands of experiments before he created the first successful light bulb.

One of Thomas Edison’s most famous quotes is “I have not failedI’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

You can have this same attitude and instead of listening to self-defeating lies and wallowing in regret you can recover quickly and try again.

Easier said than done right? It might help if you changed how you viewed failure. Here are 5 reasons why failure is good and even crucial to your success:

  1. You learn from mistakes –  Failure is one of your best teachers. You learn what works and what doesn’t. There are some insights that can only be gained by experiencing failures and setbacks yourself.  Analyze what went wrong and make the necessary adjustments. Failure is an opportunity for growth.
  2. Failure means you tried  –  You were courageous enough to try.  Be proud of yourself! Even though it didn’t turn out the way you wanted, you were brave enough to take a chance. To get really good at something you have to try and fail a few times, so you’re on your way to success.
  3.  Failure builds character– It takes strength and determination to try again after you’ve failed. You have to dig deep inside to find it, but this is what you need to sustain you in the future. You will be a better person because you failed.
  4. Future success is more likely – Those at the top of their field are those who have failed the most.  The insight and experience you gain puts you at an advantage over others who may have gotten it right the first time. Every failure makes you more and more likely to succeed.
  5. Failure isn’t the end – At least it’s not the end unless you give up. You can choose to pick yourself up and start again.  When one door closes, another one opens. Failure can bring bigger, better opportunities into your life.

In life, sometimes change is necessary to get rid of the old and make way for the new. A perceived failure is only an opportunity for you to go to something better. So fail fast, brush yourself off and try again.

Have you failed at anything? What did you learn?

To learn more about Balanced Living or our programs, please connect with me by visiting  https://www.facebook.com/DrKellyWoodMD/

Physician, Endocrinologist, Diabetes specialist, Health and Wellness expert, Blogger, Speaker! Kelly Wood, MD is board certified in Internal Medicine as well as Endocrinology, Diabetes and Metabolism. She has many years of experience working with patients to transform and improved their health. She is passionate about teaching others about the interconnections of mind, body, and spirit; and how they can achieve health in all three areas and lead a balanced life.