Self- sabotage is any behavior or action that you take which gets in your own way.
Does this sound familiar? If we’re honest with ourselves, most if not all of us do this. I know I’m guilty of self-sabotage from time to time and it’s something that I am trying to be more mindful of.
Self- sabotage can rear its ugly head in all areas of our lives. It shows up in our careers when we don’t apply for the new job or we don’t go after the promotion even know we know we are more than qualified. When it comes to relationships we royally mess things up when they’re going too well because we are more comfortable with drama and dysfunction. What about our physical health. We’re caught in the cycle of gaining and losing weight; going hard at the gym then to go home and eat something we know we shouldn’t.
What self sabotage in your life might look like:
This is perhaps one of the most common ways we get in our own way and often leads to aborted dreams. You know you should work on that task so you can meet the deadline, but you keep putting it off until the very last minute or you just never complete the task. Or maybe you start projects and never follow through. You remain unmotivated even when you have new and exciting opportunities. Why do we do this? Most of the time, it’s due to fear- fear of failing or fear of not being good enough.
2. Negative Self-talk
What are you saying to yourself?
We are sometimes our own biggest critics. Self-sabotaging thoughts tell us we’re going to fail, so why bother try. Many of these thoughts were ingrained in us as children and can be difficult
3. Worry and anxiety
4. Broken relationships