When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us. – Alexander Bell.
Last year I was looking a for a new job and after a few rounds of interviews at a facility, I felt it was a good fit. I could actually envision myself working there. They were on the same page and presented me with an offer. I was ecstatic! I soon announced to my family and friends that I had found a new job.
Then contract negotiations happened. And everything fell apart.
I was disappointed.
The job hunt was tiring: the cold calls, the dead end leads, the recruiters, the long interview days and then the waiting. I was glad it was over but then all of a sudden I had to put myself back out there again and continue applying.
I was upset with God. Like why You playing with me? Why make it seem like things were working it out, then for it not to? What’s the purpose of this disappointment?
However, about two months later I found and accepted a position which was a much better offer (in every way) than the one that didn’t work out.
Now, I am so thankful that first door was closed!
The passage of time usually gives this perspective but when you’re going through the thick of things, being thankful for a closed door is easier said than done. It’s quite normal to be sad and disappointed.
When a door closes, most often unexpectedly, we find it hard to let go. We get attached to people, places, jobs and even ideas of what we think our lives should look like. Letting go requires that we relinquish control and allow things to flow naturally. This is hard for some of us.
When a door closes in your life, change is inevitable. Change is uncomfortable and scary so we tend to resist it. Many of us become afraid of the future. A future we were not planning for.
It’s also easy to remain focused on the closed doors and missed opportunities; dwelling on the past relationship, wondering why it didn’t work or perhaps we didn’t get a particular job. Some of us even try to reopen doors to recapture what we had, but living in the past prevents us from fully existing in our present.
The truth is however, when one door closes, another opens. You are forced to go in a different direction and look for different ways to do things. In fact, some of your new opportunities could only have come into your life when an existing door was closed.
This has happened to me a lot over the past few months. When a door closes unexpectedly and ‘strangely’, it’s ALWAYS turns out that BETTER comes into my life. Now, whenever I start to stress over a closed door, I catch myself and stop. And then I wait for the better to appear.
If a door was recently closed in your life, you might not see this right now, but you will look back and realize that it was actually the best thing that could have happened to you.
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